Telling someone about your mental health problem

Mental health problems are often life changing experiences which it can really help to be able to talk about with friends, family and colleagues.

But you don’t have to shout from the rooftops or write a personal memoir to make a difference; simply opening up to a friend can go a long way in breaking down stigma.

If you feel ready to talk about your mental health problem, here are a few points to help you out...

Be prepared: Think about the different reactions, positive and negative, that the person might have so you’re prepared. The person will be thinking about their perception of mental illness, you as a person and how the two fit together.

Choose a good time: Choose a time and place when you feel comfortable and ready to talk.

Be ready for lots of questions...or none: The person you are talking might have lots of questions or need further formation to help them understand. Or they might feel uncomfortable and try to move the conversation on – if this happens it’s still helpful that the first step has been taken.

An initial reaction might not last: The person might initially react in a way that’s not helpful – maybe changing the subject, using clichés rather than listening. But give them time.

Have some information ready: Sometimes people find it easier to find out more in their own time – why not have one of our leaflets to hand?

Keep it light: We know that sometimes people are afraid to talk about mental health because they feel they don’t know what to say or how to help. So keeping the conversation light will help make you both feel relaxed.

Take up opportunities to talk: If someone asks you about your mental health, don’t shy away, be yourself and answer honestly.

Courage is contagious: Often once mental health is out in the open people want to talk. Don’t be surprised if your honesty encourages other people to talk about their own experiences.

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Read and watch other people’s experiences of telling friends, family or colleagues about their mental health problem.

We can help make life better for mental health sufferers if we are prepared to help non sufferers understand what it is really like and how they can help. It’s time to talk.
Nicola, Northampton