If only mental health was seen as clearly as physical health

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One of the many, many, untold and unseen effects of mental illness is what it does to you psychologically, as well as physically. It affects us in ways you wouldn’t imagine.

Take depression, for example. People think it’s just being ‘sad’, when it’s actually feelings of severe despondency and dejection. People don’t quite understand my story, and by my story I mean my battle with multiple mental illnesses, specifically depression.

I told my friend once that I wanted to die and her reaction was normal; she cried, but she tried to compare me wanting to die, with her wanting to die to see what her ‘ex boyfriend would say’.

This is when I truly believed that she, nor anyone else, truly understands mental health and what it’s like to have a constant battle every day.

There is so much stigma surrounding mental health that to this day still baffles me. Depression stole my friends, my family and my education. But no more - because I chose to fight. I choose to fight every single day until my mental illness is no more. I choose to fight every day for my education and to get the ‘real’ Sophie back - and if that means taking medication for the rest of my life, then so be it.

It's so sad that there are still people suffering in silence due to the stigma surrounding mental health, because it's ‘not visible’. Well actually, it can be. You may see the signs, you may notice someone 'changing' from who they used to be but it’s not always clear cut. Mental illness isn't as visible as a broken arm. Mental illness is harder to identify.

Too many people use the statement 'I feel so depressed' when they have no idea what 'being depressed' is.

I’ve come so far with my mental health and yet I'm still afraid to talk about it. Why? Because you get labelled 'crazy' as soon as you mention the term ‘mental health’, as that's what everyone associates it with. 

Something needs to be done to create better awareness of what mental illness is and what it entails. I'm so fed up of people not truly understanding what it is and how hard it is for people; fighting through every day, when really you want to die. Smiling inside, even though you want to cry. All you really want is for someone to notice how not ok you are and to truly understand what life is like for you.

I'm good at pretending to be ok, but that's not ok. Why should I? Yes, I want to die. Yes, I'm struggling badly but you can't discuss it without being 'judged' or scared, in case there are questions you simply don't know the answer to. Sometimes all you need is a hug and no questions. I wish I could change people’s perspectives on mental health and for them to see it as clearly as they see physical health.

When we change the ‘I’ to ‘we’ in illness, it becomes wellness.

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Comments

Teen Depression

how does your depression affect your school life?

Hi

Hi I had to leave uni for a year on sick leave as they thought I wasn't well enough to be their. I was studying mental health nursing.

Reply to school post

Hi, I had to leave university on sick leave because my mental health got in the way. x

This really hit home as I've

This really hit home as I've been feeling the same way for months. I can't tell anyone because I'll lose my job, my socialising friends, everything I need to keep going. Good on you for speaking out, that takes guts. Each day is a struggle and to wake up the next morning and fight through another day seems impossible but somehow I do it. I would love more than anything for someone to just listen to me pour my heart out and then give me a hug.

Seek help early

Hi just reading your posts and I am sorry for your struggles with depression. I would like to suggest that you seek help from your local MH services. Don't leave it and struggle. I have struggled all my life and believe if the right support is provided early and the reasons why you are depressed are explored early on, it is more likely to help you in the long term. X

Seeking help

Hi Daisy, I am under mental health services and have been since October time. Thank you for your comment. x

Depression

Hi I'm sorry u r going through this, I myself suffer from depression and everyone around me that I mention I'm depressed to eg my friends just seem not to care. It hurts like hell that people disregard depression. Everyone around me is to busy with their own lives to give a crap. I feel unhappy all the time I can't remember the last time I was happy. Their r days I would also love to talk with someone going through what I am.

You are not alone!

You are not alone! If you ever want to talk and spill everything out, I will be that person for you. It's hard as hell, but we will make it. Keep fighting. <3 Mo

INSPIRATION

This isn't as good as typing into google search: happy quotes or alternately, : I am unique quotes. But hope this inspires you & puts a smile on your face. Feel free to write this on a page & put it up on the wall next to your bed or on the bathroom mirror to remind yourself of it by seeing it each morning b4 you begin your day & again b4 you sleep. An most importantly: REMEMBER IT & BELIEVE: * KEEP SMILING AND ONE DAY, LIFE WILL GET TIRED OF UPSETTING YOU. *I AM UNIQUE. I AM SPECIAL BCS I AM ME. I AM RARE. I EMBRACE MY DIFFERENCES & IMPERFECTIONS BCS THEY ARE PART OF WHAT MAKES ME, ME. WHEN THINGS GET HARD I WILL REMIND MYSELF THAT GOD OFTEN TESTS THOSE HE LOVES AND THOSE THAT HE BELIVES ARE SPECIAL AND STRONG. AND IF I HAVE SINNED, THEN THIS FACT DOES NOT CHANGE. BECAUSE HIS FORGIVENESS, MERCY & KINDNESS STRETCHES BEYOND THAT WHICH EVEN THE MOST IMAGINATIVE PERSON CAN DREAM OF. AND EVEN BEYOND THAT WHICH EVEN THE ENTIRE NATION PUT TOGETHER CAN IMAGINE. I AM ME. I ACKNOWLEDGE THIS. AND I WILL KEEP REMINDING MYSELF OF THIS, ESPECIALLY WHEN THINGS GET HARD. *I AM NOT WHAT OTHERS MAKE OF ME. I AM WHAT I MAKE OF MYSELF. WHO I BELIEVE MYSELF TO BE. AND THE OPINIONS OF OTHERS ONLY MATTER WHERE THEY ARE DECIDING WHO THEY THEMSELVES AS INDIVIDUALS ARE. NOT WHERE I AM CONCERNED. BEYOND THAT THEY HAVE NO BUSINESS MAKING OPINIONS. NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO MAKE ME FEEL INFERIOR WITHOUT MY CONSENT AND THAT IS A HUMAN RIGHT. NO HUMAN HAS THE RIGHT TO JUDGE ANY OTHER HUMAN AND THAT IS GOD'S RIGHT AND COMMANDMENT TO ALL HUMANS, REGARDLESS OF WHICH RELIGION YOU OR WHERE YOU COME FROM.

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