Borderline Personality Disorder: blogs and personal stories

We all have different ways of thinking, feeling and behaving, and this tends to shape the way we view the world and how we interact with others.

You might be described as having a 'personality disorder' if your personality traits cause regular, long-term problems in the way you cope with life, interact with other people and respond emotionally. There is varied opinion around borderline personality disorder (BPD) though, as well as misunderstanding, stigma and discrimination – even among professionals. This can make it harder for people to get the support they might need.

What is borderline personality disorder?

"I hate having BPD, but it was a relief to eventually discover that it's the reason for such a bizarre and incapacitating range of symptoms.” (Anonymous) My BDP diagnosis and my friends reaction

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is one of the most widely recognised personality disorders, though it is still thought to affect less than one per cent of the population.

BPD symptoms might include strong emotions, rapid changes in feelings and moods, difficulties in controlling certain impulses, poor self image, feelings of not fitting or belonging, and a deep sense of emptiness and isolation. All of these things can make social relationships challenging.

Someone with BPD might go to extreme lengths to prevent feelings of abandonment. They might feel tempted to harm themselves if emotions become hard to cope with or express, and might also experience delusions or hallucinations

Find out more about symptoms, treatments and tips for managing it on the NHS, Rethink Mental Illness and Mind websites.

The stigma around BPD

"From friends, family and strangers in the street, everyone has an opinion and loves to tell you theirs. The most common comments I get are ‘Get a grip!’, ‘Just let it go over your head’, ‘Grow up!’... And the one I hate the most: 'Stop attention seeking!'" (Ziggy) Borderline Personality Disorder and relationships

Mental health problems are common, but nearly nine in ten people who experience them say they face stigma and discrimination as a result.

This stigma and discrimination can be one of the hardest parts of the overall experience because it might mean lost friendships, isolation, exclusion from activities, difficulties in getting and keeping a job, not finding help and a slower recovery. Equally, stigma can cause us to shy away from the people around us who might need our support.

It doesn’t have to be this way.

How can I help?

The aim of the Time to Change campaign is to encourage us all to be more about our mental health, and to start conversations with those who might need our support.

Why not find out how you could start a conversation about mental health?

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Personal blogs about living with BPD

The following blog posts are written by people with personal experience of BPD. By talking openly, our bloggers hope to increase understanding around mental health, break down stereotypes and take the taboo out of something that – like physical health – affects us all.

My view: Being in a relationship with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder

paddyOn the request of my girlfriend I have been encouraged to write about what it is like to be in a relationship with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). I wrote this piece because my girlfriend asked for it. We speak about her feelings often, about her thoughts on BPD and how she sees the condition, but we very rarely talk about how I see it.

Borderline Personality Disorder: a conversation with a stranger drastically improved my mood

lizI was having one of those days – I was feeling hopeless and didn’t know who to turn to. I’d visited my parents that day because I felt like I needed some company but naturally I seemed very despondent and, not wanting to worry my mum and dad, I returned home early in the evening so that my low mood wouldn’t impact on anyone else unnecessarily.


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