I was diagnosed with pre and postnatal depression after the birth of my second baby. I kept quiet throughout my pregnancy until I was 32 weeks pregnant and then the Dr said he couldn't give me anything because I was too far gone. I then stayed quiet for 14 weeks until something inside switched and I knew I needed to seek help. I was given six sessions of cognitive behavioural therapy, but could only make it to three because of childcare issues.
When I was suffering with PND, I had two very good friends who would text me daily to see how I was. One of these made me promise her that I was to text her to say when I was feeling terrible and having thoughts that I was a terrible mother, so that she could talk me round to remembering how much of a good mum I was, or lend whatever support she could.
My friends really did help me through the darkest of days. They helped me see the light. They helped me get up and out when all I wanted to do was sleep. My friend Phoebe to this day makes sure I'm OK. And I haven't been poorly for months now. In fact, because of her I came off my medication, under the supervision of my GP.
I worked hard to become the woman I am now. It was so lonely being ill with PND and it changed my life. I was a shell of a women, with a fake smile. But it took one friend to ask me if I was really OK. She would just know when that smile was painted on. It's good to have friends like that.
I now have my own support groups for mums with pre and postnatal depression, or just suffering with loneliness. I understand how scary and alone a mental health problem can make you feel. It robbed me of everything at one point! But with my friends and the correct support, I changed that. Don’t get me wrong, it has been hard and still is. But I choose to be happy! And PND can't rob that again!
I support 20 mums in person and 400+ online. I'm now #inyourcorner for mums in groups and on my social media sites.
Mums from all over the world ask me for support and help. I am blessed to have met some amazing work through such rubbish circumstances. I work closely with professionals such as Mind to be able to deliver the best service available. Being a mum is hard. Really hard. But it's the best thing I have or ever will do
My motto now is to take each day as they come. If one day is hard it doesn't mean the next will be. I love being #inyourcorner and helping as many mums as I can.
I have had many friends with mental health problems and have seen them deal with it in the most wonderful ways. It's about finding something that works for you. But being the support means you need to be able to listen as that's often all someone with mental health problems wants.