June 15, 2015

This year I am going to become a father for the first time in my life: I am looking forward to it, but it also brings with it a lot of self doubt.mark's blog I am scared that I won’t be mentally ready for it, as in the past I have suffered with mental health problems. I found it hard to cope with everyday things and I hope now I can cope enough with this huge challenge and responsibility.

How will I be a 'good' dad?

Now I am at the edge of a new beginning in my life I think about things like: "how will I manage with the baby?" And how will I be a 'good' dad? I also worry: "will I be a good enough partner?" I hope that I can do everything- I hope that I can to learn how to manage with a baby in our lives but I worry that my mental health could get in the way of having a new family and my work life. I worry if I will keep it together for my baby and partner's sake. Can I be strong enough for them?

Together myself and my partner can support one another through this life changing experience

I feel right now the support my partner gives me and the confidence she encourages in me will get me through this time and we will work together as a team. My partner also has suffered anxiety and depression and I worry for her mental health too but, together, we can support one another through this life changing experience. Through sharing our worries and concerns we will become stronger and closer together. I think talking out about your feelings to someone you can confide in or trust can strengthen your relationship and help you to see that worrying just means you care so therefore you can be a good dad and partner.

I really hope I can do this to show other dads with mental health problems if I can do this, so can they. You can be a good dad and partner, cope and support them with mental health problems.

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