Supporting a spouse or partner with a mental health problem can be scary and challenging - it can be tough to know what to do, or how to be helpful. These stories, by people with mental health problems and the loved ones who have supported them, could provide some useful tips and insight. 

Anxiety is more common than ever in young people

‘You’re not really ill though are you?’

This was what my colleague said to me, while I was explaining why I had to go home early from work that day. I had just finished crying and felt tired, overwhelmed and exhausted. I felt short of breath and panicky; what I imagine a mild heart attack might feel like. Guess I wasn’t explaining this clearly enough to him.

7 mental health conversations from my relationship

1. “I’m actually a little obsessive compulsive myself.”

That’s the first time I mentioned my mental health to my boyfriend. I can’t remember it exactly but we were still getting to know each other on a dating app and he was telling me about his neat-freak flatmate.

It was a bit of a white lie because I’m actually very obsessive compulsive. So much so that I was given a diagnosis of Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD) along with the accompanying depression and anxiety.

Thanks to my understanding partner I am still here today

Having mental health problems has always been the most isolating and difficult part of my life. Most of my thoughts and feelings have been my secret, so as not to look ‘strange’, ‘weak’ or ‘self-obsessed’. I worried I would be judged and discriminated against. I worried I would become further isolated if I discussed it and on top of that, I did not want my family and friends to worry themselves or see me as a burden.

My husband helps my mental health problems with trust and kindness

Within the last few months, the programme ‘Stranger Things’ has created a huge following, including my husband and me. There are many different topics I could focus on but I will not add any spoilers. However, the best aspect for me was the friendship between the group of friends. Their ups and downs, differences, arguments and relentless support for one and other.

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