How to be in your mate's corner

Having a mate in your corner can make all the difference when you have a mental health problem. So, if your mate is acting differently, step in. It's not hard - read these stories to see how it's done. 

My mum's there for every anxious phone call

HayleyNovember 2, 2017

"Which side of the road do we drive on in this country?" 

"Are you this sarcastic with all your students?" I asked my dear mother.

"Normally I just say 'Bonjour!'"

I do like to use that one on my driver friends. I also enjoy "If it was a boat, I would've fallen in", when someone parks too far from the kerb. (When I reminded my mum of these wisecracks recently, she responded "I'm hilarious! [cry laugh face emoji]".)

My mate visiting me in hospital started my recovery

MichaelOctober 26, 2017

After being hospitalised for a number of days for the first time, fairly delirious, paranoid, and generally feeling unwell; my best friend came to visit. I had not seen him in many years, and this was a friend who I would see on almost a daily basis, someone who was always there, but having moved away it was no longer possible to see him as much. I had been unwell for a number of weeks and it was all new, unfamiliar, and distressing. Not only was I dealing with the illness itself, but now, finding myself in a hospital surrounded by new faces and settings it was all rather overwhelming.

The people in my corner make my anxiety and depression much easier to deal with

NickOctober 19, 2017

“It’s OK to not be OK”

I didn’t fully understand that at first. I used to hate myself for not being able to just get on with life, and think it’s my fault I’m like this. Since my treatment, I slowly started to get it, that this isn’t a choice or attitude problem and I’m not just attention seeking. Accepting that this is part of me and I can’t change that. I can now say to myself when I feel like the world’s falling apart around me, “I’m not OK, but that’s OK”, and that helps to give me grounding and a brief moment of clarity.